...Old mommy or young mommy.
As you all know by now, I am a single mommy. I am also young, 23, I had E when I was only 21 (I look a lot younger then I really am- That will be GRAET... when im 40!). But in my eyes AGE has NOTHING to do with what kind of mother you are as long as you have the MATURITY.
Today as E and I were on our way out of the drugstore a middle aged woman looked at us, I was talking to E & holding 1 of her hands in the other was our small bag, She enjoys carrying big-girl stuff, as she toddled along (I let E walk if its just a quick trip no need to pull out the stroller). She sighed LOUDLY & said to her friend "GIRLS shouldn't have children until they are in their late 20's- That way they are more inept and considered a woman".
Who is she to decide when someone should have a child? Age has nothing to do with it as long as you have the MATURITY to raise a child properly.
-I have a friend, we will call her Renea, who is 20 yrs old and she has a two yr old. She is a FANTASTIC mother. She is also a single mom with a full time job and in college. She does everything for her darling little girl. She has a lot on her plate and does a terrific job dealing. She nvr pawns her child off on someone (ie: grandma) b/c she needs "me" time. Remember she is ONLY 20.
-I [also] have another mom friend, we will call her Scarlett, who is 38 with a 2yr old and a newborn. She on the other hand isn't such a good mom. She is married. But she can't handle even giving her toddler a bath at night, its too stressful with the splashing and what not. Playing isnt much fun either b/c she doesn't play with her b/c when she gets her from grandmas house she is too tired from work. Then not to mention dinner! Oh lord what to feed my toddler- (HOW ABOUT THE SAME THING YOU EAT). Her mom (grandma) does ALL that, b/c frankly she wants the best for her granddaughter. As well as clean her house and what not b/c who wants their children living in filth. Apparently this mom doesn't care b/c unless her mom cleans her house is filthy. She has a HUSBAND who is supposed to help- but hes always busy on the computer or video games. I can't make this up folks. She has a lot but she doesn't deal well. Pawns baby (soon to be babies) off on grandma ALL THE TIME for "me" time. PLEASE. Remember she is 38.
So to me age has nothing to do with what kind of mother you will be.
I don't think complete strangers should judge ME or anyone else for that matter (b/c I know I wasn't the first- nor the last- sadly) b/c you have no idea what kind of mother I am. My age has nothing to do with that.
Not all "youngins" are all about partying & drinking. When you have a child you mature and that child becomes top priority. Renea showed us thats what she did, she grew up. Scarlett is more then 15yrs Renea's senior and acts like a child most of the time.
I believe it is all in how you were raised, who you looked up too. How you were mothered as to what kind of mother you will be. You take the things you learned & you alter them for your personality and the childs.
I have met both ladies mothers, both wonderful women. They both did a great job raising their children.
Some people were meant to be mothers, some weren't. End of story. Age has nothing to do with it. (I am not condoning 14/15 yr olds going out having babies in anyway... but I am sure yall understand what I mean)
**How do yall feel about this? Do you agree with the middle-aged woman @ the drugstore? Or do you agree that age isn't a factor, as long as you have the MATURITY?**
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