Wednesday, February 2, 2011

"The List"

Last week I wrote a post, here, about "The List" and why I am making one. 
It took me a few days but, I have tweaked it and refined it. I am pleased with it. 
Now the hard part, not only looking for these traits in a MAN, but to become the list myself. 
I will continue to add to the list but, you get the idea: 
  • You accept my daughter, not just tolerate her. We are a package deal, you see me, you will most likely see her too. I am a single mom, I don't get a babysitter often.
  • You are confident in the MAN you are and can deal with my past. I can deal with yours.
  • When you look at me, You look me in the eyes. 
  • You get that I am emotional and thats okay. Thats who I am.
  • You stick by my side, even through rough times, I can look and you're still there.
  • You get along with your family and mine- or try to.
  • You want to grow with me, physically and emotionally.
  • We have extreme chemistry; Physically and Emotionally. 
  • You are financially responsible.
  • You cheer me on and are excited for my successes. I will do the same for you.
  • You pick me up when I fall. I will have a band-aid for you when you fall.
  • You like to cook every once in a while & enjoy when I cook and bake.
  • You know how to communicate, genuinely and respectfully. You make  the effort to talk to me, about every day things. As well as the future.
  • You don't feel the need to fill the silence, you are okay just sitting with me, without talking.
  • You make me laugh an laugh at my lame attempts to be funny- even if you know its not funny, laugh.
  • You have a great work ethic. 
  • You are a good role model for my daughter. 
  • You are a ONE WOMAN man. You only want to be in a committed relationship.
  • You are up for trying new things with me.

I know there is so much more and as I venture out into the dating world, I am sure I will refine this list.

Is there anything, YOU think I should add? Let me know your thoughts. 
This list may be "ridiculous" but I have settled in the past. Never again. 
*You can check out Rachel Sarah's, Single Mom Seeking, list Here.


Keep up in between posts, I Tweet , A lot.

-Kandid Kelli

1 comment:

JB said...

I love this one - You don't feel the need to fill the silence, you are okay just sitting with me, without talking.