"Judgments"

Have you ever been guilty of judging someone the minute you looked at them?

I know, as a woman, sadly, I have. Do men scrutinize other men as badly as women do other woman? [My male readers please step-up and let us know!]

I started grad school last month & due to illnesses (of teachers) & my first ever SNOW days we missed 2 consecutive weeks.

Last night when I went to my last class of the week I looked around at all the faces, by at this point in the semester, should be familiar to me aren't.

I remember a month ago, on the first day of class, being the first person I in my class, so I like to be early... But as the other students... females walked into the room I found myself judging them, without even realizing it.

I immediately thought to myself "I don't like her b/c of X, Y & Z" WTF is all that about? I was raised NOT to do that. As a christian you are supposed to love everyone no matter what. I didn't know these women from Eve, yet I already was forming opinions from their "covers".

I am not proud of this. But it happened, I am by no means perfect. I work very hard daily to make myself a better person. I want to be the best person I can be, not only for myself, but I want to be a positive role model for E.

But after we did our introductions, of who we are & where we came from & why we came into this profession; I found that I was very off base on my judging & that I in fact shouldn't have been judging those woman to begin with.

Last night was entirely different, knowing what I know about them, there was no judging, just understanding & curiosity. We got a small peak into their lives a month ago w. the introductions, but as the class unfolds and we go about the semester you learn more and more about your classmates (b/c with only 7 people in my class, it makes it easy to get to know them).

I hope now that I am conscious that I did this I can stop it from happening in the future.

**Can you relate to doing something similar to this too? Or Maybe you were the one being judged? Let me know!**

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I hope everyone has a fantastic weekend, I will be starting on a 15pg research paper & some professional journal "responses" THANKS Grad school for all the homework & trying to cram 2 weeks of missed school all in... really thanks, we DON'T have lives outside of school!

Come back on Monday b/c you know that means "Not Me Monday" ...!!!

Don't miss a beat, keep up in between posts, I Tweet , are we friends, if not we should be

xo

Kandid Kelli

"Mail Time"

I have the damn song from "Blue's Clues" - "Mail Time" stuck in my head. So I thought it appropriate for todays title. These slew of "Love" letters are well over due. We are over 3 weeks into 2010. I am slacking here.



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Dear Ole Faithful,

You failed me Saturday. The turnpike?! Really?! Really?! It took me over 2hrs to get to little miss Es playdate @ Michelle & Brandon's house when it should've taken me about an hr! WTF?! Not only did you cause me to waste precious gas, but my TIME. We are not friends anymore until you do right by me. Get crackin, you hear.

Annoyed,
Owner of a 5.5 yr old MDX GPS
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Dear PA Weather,

I love that I am able to now accessorize with coats, scarves and BOOTS! Yes the boots, mainly my UGGS are great but please make up your mind. One day its 15* the next its 50* and raining. Gross. I experienced snow that was great, fun & cold. I don't need anymore. Mainly b.c I am scared to drive in it.

Thank You in advance,
Floridan gone North
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Dear Friendly Bathroom Scale,

I have been [trying] to stick to the plan as best as possible. I am not the cook. My snacks [minus the reeses and the doughnuts this weekend] are Weight Watchers friendly. I hope when I weigh-in Wed AM @ 9:30 I am down a few lbs. PLEASE OH PLEASE!! I beg of you!!

Desperately,
New-[ish] Lifetime Member
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Dear Leggins,

I love you. I love you more then my favorite jeans. I love you esp. paired with my UGGS or my J.Simpson thigh high boots & no matter what anyone says I will wear you as pants [when I have a long enough sweater or tunic]. Yes thats right PANTS! Judge away you judgers, but you know wear em too.

Lovingly,
Proud Legging Wearer
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Dear Toddlers of the World,

...or the one in the bedroom down the hall. I have instated a NEW rule. Well its not that new but for someone who isn't quite 2 yrs old its new. Its called SLEEPING IN. Its this thing where we sleep till at least 9am. NOT 6:freaking45 on a Saturday AM!!! Lets try it out this weekend, see how we like it [hint: we will like it] & go from there. Okay?

Tiredly,
Mama Bear
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Only [6days] till the reveal of the new NAME & Design for the blog yall. Erin @ MyWayThisTime has been working really hard, or hardly working? To make this great. Hmm. JK. We shall see come Monday, Jan 25. I can't wait!
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-Kelli-Sue

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"So Easy Breezy"

To look at another persons life, relationship, job, etc... and judge. Point fingers if you will. Its easy to find the flaws and then once you've found them you want to correct them, as if the person hasn't tried that already. The problem is probably running deeper then what you see/hear about on the surface.

Everyone does it. Go ahead, lie & say you don't. You do. Its human nature.

[are you done lying yet?- ::Waiting::-] [okay proceeding... ]

It's easier to look at someone else's life, relationship, job, etc... then to look at our own. It's easier to [try] fix someone else's problems, even if its just on the surface. When there are probably plenty of your own to fix... take a look in your own backyard.
Usually all you're doing is causing more hurt and heartache; by shedding unnecessary light on the situation(s), when you thought you were helping- you probably were not.

More times then not people know what is wrong in their life, relationship, job, etc... They DO NOT need outsiders who know little [to nothing] about it throwing their measly two cents in. It feels like they are rubbing it in. Thats not necessary, at all.

Look at logically when you have a problem with your life, relationship, job, etc... do you like it when someone who knows little [to nothing] about the situation try's to give you unwarranted advise? -NO, you don't. --Lying, again?! You don't like it, b/c you didn't ask for it. If you wanted their opinion you would have asked for it. Period.

So next time you go to judge someone else's life, relationship, job, etc... Check your own backyard... maybe do some "grooming" in your own yard before you lend a helping hand to your "neighbor" unless they asked!

**My daughter is sick... like has her first cold...ever in 17mons of life... So she comes first, the posts might be scarce or just be a vid the next couple of days! Plus this chick has her LAST, yes LAST surgical procedure Thursday!**

Thx for sticking with me [us]

-Kelli-Sue

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