"Thank You"

I have always heard the expression "You have to have the bad to appreciate the good". I never understood that until I met TM.

Two nights ago, we were on the couch and he asked me "Would you have dated me 5 years ago?" (when I was 19/20). I quickly replied "No." He & I could not believe how quickly I replied.

I then remembered what I had heard my mom tell my sister a few years ago... ""You have to have the bad to appreciate the good." Five years ago I hadn't experienced the bad. I was in my first year of college and I was dating a Marine who cheated on me (unknowingly) EIGHT times while on a MEU. After him I bounced from guy to guy Marine to Marine. I was never with any of them long enough to really get hurt.

I dated a great man [recon] Marine. He was one of the good ones, but I guess I hadn't had enough bad. I broke-up with him for no reason. From there it was just asshole after asshole.

My ex-husband and ex-fiancee, each, being one of them, lucky me.

But I want to take a moment to say THANK YOU to both of them for leaving me because if it weren't for them leaving I would have never have met TM.

Yes I was heart broken when each one of them left & thought I would never recover.

I did recover. When I was least expecting it.

When I was least expecting it I met a great MAN. A MAN who was okay with just being my friend, while I got over my issues. A MAN who sticks around even though I have not fully taken my walls down. A MAN who constantly reminds me that he loves me and ISNT GOING ANYWHERE.

They are right, you will find love, just stopping looking, but get out there.

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xo

-Kandid Kelli

"Tick-Off Tuesday"

Sometimes I wish my ex-husband and I didn't hate each other so much.

He switched jobs over 2 months ago without notifying me, he is now behind 2 1/2 months with his child support payments. I depend on his child support, to help support E, I am FINLLY moving into my own place within the next week (I should get the keys Friday, if all goes as planned) when I found this place & was figuring out my bills I was figuring in CS as well- As of right now I have not received close to $1,000 in CS. Not to mention I have ENT bills & Surgery bills from her surgery last week. 

I finally found out where he was working and sent them his IDO (Income Deduction Order- where the CS is removed from his paycheck & sent to me directly from the STATE, b/c I didn't trust him to pay on his own, so the judge ordered one). The woman I have been dealing with in the payroll dept @ his company is not so nice & I want to go through the phone and SHAKE HER! She talks to me like I am a moron and all I want to know is what the problem is, I called two different entities yesterday and they said everything is fine, but what's her deal?

I never had a single problem receiving CS from his previous employer for over 1.5yrs, by the time this all gets sorted out, if it ever does, he is going to be more then 4 months behind. I am filling out forms today to try and receive at least what he is behind on but I think even that will take sometime. 

Its days/weeks like this when I warn any of my readers, both the anon. and the ones I know of... BE FOR SURE, BEFORE YOU BRING A CHILD INTO THE PICTURE! ONCE YOU GET DIVORCED & A CHILD IS INVOLVED THINGS ARE SO COMPLICATED & IT SUCKS.  

I was not sure, I actually wanted an annulment and the day I called my attny to start the annulment process, happens to be the day I found out I was pregnant & couldn't annul it, I needed an actual divorce with a family attny.

-Wow this was a lot longer and way more info then I intended it being. Basically I am TICKED OFF @ MY EX-HUSBAND FOR BEING BEHIND ON CS, HIS JOB FOR PUTTING ME THROUGH THIS NONSENSE & THE STATE OF FL (im not sure why but I am sure there is something they are doing that is causing his job to be complete morons). 

This is probably why I have been so angst-y lately.

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xo

-Kandid Kelli