"30 Day Challenge... Day 11"

Day 11: Something people seem to compliment you the most on.

I get compliments a lot on my eyes and smile & in turn my teeth. Sometimes it makes me feel uncomfortable, although, I do take great pride in my teeth. I did even before my stepdad and mom married and before I worked in a dental office.

I also get quite a few compliments on what a well behaved and sweet child I have. They tell me I am raising my daughter well, that I am doing a good job. That is one compliment I will gladly take without shame & it will never get old. My daughter is my pride and joy. I think the world of her and to hear OTHERS praise her makes my heart swell, with love, joy & happiness.

**What is something people seem to compliment you the most on?

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xo

-Kandid Kelli

"30 Day Challenge... Day 10"

Day 10: Someone you need to let go, or wish you didn’t know.

I need to let go of the person I used to be.

 This is the first time in over 2 years I have been single for any measurable amount of time. I always had a man boy in my life. Always. I am a confident, busy, single mommy. I am proud of that. I do not need a man. Sure it would be nice but I can't always be on the prowl, like I used to be. 

I am a mommy now, my body is different now. I can't drop 5lbs like I used to be able to, so I have to be careful when I do put on weight & weight goes to different places than before. I can not fit in to super low cut jeans anymore. When I go out I can't (and dont want to) drink as much as I used to. Sure I can stay up late but 630 comes early after a long night and my toddler doesn't care what I did the night before; She's hungry & thirsty. 

I have to stop trying to be who I was the last time I was single. Because last time I was single I was also CHILDLESS. I have to let go of the old Kelli and embrace this one. 

I may go a long time w.out a man or w.out going out but Im fine and dandy with that, I have my girl. This is who I am & there's no changing that.

/SN:I hope this made sense... b/c it did in my head!endSN/

**Who is someone you need to let go, or wish you didn’t know?

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-Kandid Kelli

"30 Day Challenge... Day 9"

Day 9: Someone you didn’t want to let go, but just drifted.

Hmm, there's been a few people in my life that just drifted. 

You have the normal HS whom you go to different colleges or separate ways after graduation. You try to keep in touch those frist few months after graduation, as you haven't made your college friends yet and your circle isn't what it was in HS. So you travel between the colleges (as best you can) or get together on breaks. Then college speeds up, the work piles on, your college friends circle is more close knit and you have developed your college life; you miss a visit here or there. Makes plans for another weekend. You go and its not the same. You/they have changed, so slowly the phone calls and txt messages become fewer and finally stop. It's sad but you're growing up. 

Then when you graduate college the same thing happens with your college friends, but its because you move back to your hometown, you don't stay in the town you went to college in. Your lifestyles become different, you're not in college anymore, your priorities have shifted. You talk via the internets (FB, IM, Email, Etc) but not about anything like you used to. Nothing deep, just scratching the surface, so to speak. You know they will always be in your life, but the role they play might just be a minor one. 

Thats life. People change and grow and with all that changing and growing comes the drifting of friendships. Sometimes the end of them all together. The one thing that lasts forever, are the memories you made with those friends while they were in your life. Take time to reminisce and remember your old friends, they may not be in your life anymore, and it may be for the best, but when they were in your life, things were good & fun and carefree. 

**Who is someone you didn’t want to let go, but just drifted?

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-Kandid Kelli

"30 Day Challenge... Day 8"

Day 8: Someone who made your life hell, or treated you like shit.

This is not easy to answer. As there have been quite a few people in my life who have made me think I was in hell. But I am going to have to say my ex-husband takes the cake here; most who have been reading my blog since the beginning would agree. Honestly I think we both treated each other pretty badly. He always made sure he "won" though. He was controlling and mean. He broke down my self-esteem and self-worth. He told me he didn't like the way I looked (how is that love?), so I did what he wanted to change it, I put on weight, I stopped tanning and dyed my hair. I was basically a different person from the girl he dated. But he "had me" and was going to do what he pleased. He alienated me from my family, threatening to not be there when I got back if I went on a FAMILY TRIP, that was planned before he came into the picture. I never got to see them or my friends, b/c he didn't like them and visa versa. He didn't know how to budget money so we had huge money problems that fell to me. I could go on & on, but I won't. Because the one good thing he did was give me my daughter, my life. She pulled me out of "hell".


My new thing is "Let bygones be bygones"; come 2011 I hope to never talk about the ex, in a negative manner. 


**Who is someone who made your life hell, or treated you like shit?

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xo

-Kandid Kelli